Should I Move In With My Girlfriend Y/N

TO: LOGAN
FROM: ALLIE
SUBJECT: IDK

My girlfriend and I spend all of our time together. We love each other. We’re in it to win it. We both have our apartments but we mostly stay at hers, and we’ve been talking about moving in together. It makes sense! I sleep in my apartment maybe once a week, and I only go there to pick up new clothes. I’m paying rent on a closet, basically, and I’m overextended financially. Being able to pay less rent by moving in with the gf would be so amazing — and not just for me, for her, too. She’s paying down some debt and could do it quicker with lower rent. I could finally stop living paycheck to paycheck, could start saving some. I get giddy just thinking about it.

So why do all my friends give me A LOOK when I tell them our plan? Some of them think it’s too soon (we’ve been together 5 months), but besides that, no one can give me a concrete reason this is a bad idea. I don’t see any reason not to do this. We love each other. We get along. Times are hard, and that extra money could really be good for both of us. My apartment is just sitting there, not being used, costing me money. It seems crazy not to get rid of it.

TO: ALLIE
FROM: LOGAN
SUBJECT: RE: IDK

My only question for you is: What were you going to do about your money problems before you got with your girlfriend? Were you going to get a second job? Move to smaller apartment? A different neighborhood? Figure out what you’d do about your money stress if you didn’t have this dreamy half-rent apartment hanging in front of you, and then do whatever that is. Solve your own problems. Your girlfriend’s apartment is a great place to spend time, but it isn’t your solution. It’s a cop out.

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